Some thoughts on…
- Being the man you’d like to be
- Get a clear picture of your ideal. A positive “I am” or “I do” is much more motivating than “I’m not” or “I don’t.” A clear, concise positive statement is like the goal-line.
- Get clear about why that man is your ideal.
- Put your ideal into action. What are you doing when you’re meeting your standard?
- Keep track of your progress. Catch yourself doing it right and mark it down.
- Enlist a buddy. Not your wife! Another guy who wants something similar in his life. Encourage one another. Challenge one another. Expect the best of yourself and one another.
- Being the husband you’d like to be
- Listen to her
- Spend time with her doing what she likes doing with you
- Figure out what brings her joy. Make it happen.
- Date her like you did when you were trying to catch her
- 5:1 or better. EVERY DAY make sure you’re giving your wife at least 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction.
- Being the father you’d like to be
- Make a list of the things your dad did right to help you become the man you are.
- Do lots of that with your kids. One day they’ll make a list of the things you did right.
- Make a list of the ways your dad might have dropped the ball with you. Make sure you’re not dropping the same ball with your kids.
- 5:1 or better. EVERY DAY make sure you’re giving your kids at least 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction.
- Being the friend you’d like to have
- Don’t wait for the other guy to make the call.
- Listen more than you talk.
- When it’s your turn to talk, start with a follow-up question on what he just said.
- A friend is the guy who accepts you as you are with no immediate plans for your improvement.” Be that man.
- Put it on your calendar. Good friendships take time to develop. They don’t happen overnight, and certainly don’t happen by accident.
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