How do I know when it is time to see a therapist?
It may be time to see a therapist when the problems you’re experiencing…
- are happening more frequently and are creating significant disrruption in your life or relationships.
- have become more painful over time. Things seem to be getting worse.
- have been going on, and on. And on. There seem to be more “bad” days than “good days.
Why do I need a therapist? Why can’t I just talk to a friend or a family member?
Our families and friends are great sources of support. We need them. Many times they have great insight or advice that can help us “cut to the chase.”Wherever possible, I help my clients identify and make use of the wisdom already around them.
Other times, our friends and family members are too close to the problem to help us get the perspective we need to make significant change. Professionally trained therapists can provide a valuable outside perspective of what might be going on and help you create an action plan to make positive change.
How does therapy work?
Therapy starts with a focused conversation about the problems or challenges you’re facing. For problems like depression or anxiety, that conversation will include a formal assessment. For other problems, this may involve asking another person who knows you well to answer some questions about how they see the challenges you’re facing and your ways of coping.
From that initial conversation and assessment, we collaborate to identify one or two goals you want to achieve. Your goals become the target we work toward. We create a treatment plan (think of a map) and identify specific action steps that will help you make progress toward your goal.
Each session will focus on helping you work toward your goal. When you’ve reached your goal, we celebrate your achievement and conclude our work. Many of my clients “graduate” from therapy in 6 to 10 sessions.
What are your areas of expertise?
Men struggling with pornography and sexual addiction come to me for help in recovering from their compulsive thoughts and behaviors. I’m continually upgrading my knowledge and skills in addiction treatment to help men find freedom.
Couples come to me for help with their relationship. I have completed Level I and Level II training in the Gottman Method of Couple Therapy, an acclaimed method of helping couples build a strong relationship.
Both men and women come to me for help with substance abuse, depression, stress and anxiety. I draw from a wide range of tools that have been demonstrated to be effective in helping people with these issues.
What is your education, license, and experience?
Doctor of Ministry (D.Min.) in Marriage and Family Counseling from Denver Seminary. 2004.
Professional development training program (Certificate of Completion). Addiction counseling from the Colorado School for Family Therapy. 2010
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Colorado License # 746. Licensed in 2006.
Licensed Addiction Counselor. Colorado License # 202. Licensed in 2010.
I have over 5,000 hours of experience in direct and indirect counseling with individuals, couples and families.
Counseling is my second profession. For nearly 30 years, I was a Lutheran pastor.
How will I know if you are the right therapist for me?
You’ll feel heard, understood and respected.
You’ll have a sense that my approach – how I work with you– is a good fit for you.
You will have clarity about your goals.
You will have a specific plan to work toward achieving your goals.
You’ll leave the session with the belief that we talked about the things you needed to discuss.
You’ll be able to identify your own progress.
You’ll have the sense that your time and money were well invested.
(Some questions drawn from Miller, Duncan & Johnson (2002). Session Rating Scale).
How long are the sessions?
Most sessions are 50 minutes in length. If you want an extended appointment, 90-minute sessions can be arranged.
Do you offer online counseling?
After an initial in-person appointment, clients may request to meet online. For most clients, this is both convenient and effective.
What are your fees? Is counseling covered by my insurance?
A 50-minute session for an individual is $100. A 90-minute session with an individual is $150.
A 50-minute session with a couple or family is $120. A 90-minute session with a couple or family is $200.
Almost all health insurance plans provide some mental health benefits, although the specific amount of coverage may vary significantly from one plan to another. Contact your carrier’s customer service department to find out the benefits your plan offers.
I provide services as an out-of-network provider; I am not listed on any insurance panel. However, I will give you a receipt or “superbill” you can use to submit for any out-of-network reimbursement your contract might provide.
I have more questions. Do you offer initial an initial consultation?
I offer a 30-minute phone consultation – no cost and no obligation – to answer any additional or specific questions you might have. Call me today.
How do I get started?
Call me today.