A few weeks ago, I explained that the OCEAN model of personality measures each of the five dimensions along a continuum from low to high, and that the elements comprising the five dimensions also exist along a continuum from low to high.
At the heart of this series is the belief that there is no good or bad, positive or negative personality profile. It’s the belief that we use our personality for benefit of those around us. It’s the belief that we grow to the degree that we’re able to accept the strengths – and limitations – of our personality, rather than try to be someone we’re not.
Wherever you find yourself on the Extroversion – Introversion dimension, you have the opportunity to bring amazing strengths to your relationships, roles, occupations.
Here’s how Bob and Jim wrote about their Extroversion in their journals
Bob – High Extroversion
I love people! I am probably one of the most sociable men at my firm. I go out of my way to be in the middle of a large group of people. The more people at the meeting, the better! It’s stimulating to be with a group of people, whether we’re working on a common project, or watching a game.
At work, my Extroversion gives me an opportunity to talk about my ideas about the project. Its natural for me to be active, talkative, and assertive.
One of my strengths as an Extrovert is that I bring energy to whatever group I’m with. My co-workers appreciate my upbeat, optimistic attitude.
Jim – Low Extroversion
It was like turning on a light when my coach helped me realize that it was okay not to be the life of the party, and that my Introversion brings a potential strength.
Being more reserved and serious than my co-workers gives me the opportunity to take an even-paced approach to my work. My Introversion allows me to think and work independently.
I don’t need the stimulation of a fast-paced work environment. One of my strengths is that I’m comfortable being in the background and letting others do the talking.
Both Jim and Bob bring amazing strengths to their work. Bob’s high Extroversion makes him a natural marketer. Jim’s low Extroversion gives him the opportunity to hone his craft as a financial planner.
Both men make a tremendous contribution to their men’s group. As an Introvert, Jim is a great listener. The men rely on him to ask deeper more insightful questions. As an Extrovert, Bob’s energy and enthusiasm keep the discussions lively.
Both Bob and Jim consider the other man as his best friend. They’ve learned from each other the skills of speaking and listening, of taking action and allowing another to take the lead.
One of the most important skills both men have learned is to ask for and receive feedback from each other. Questions like, “Help me understand what it’s like from your perspective.” And “What did you hear me say?” And “What do you see that I might be missing?”
Navigating our Extroversion, like navigating any of the other characteristics of our personalities is an opportunity for self-understanding, growth, and maturity.
Over the course years, I’ve found excellent resources to help people understand their personalities. I’ve helped them develop that uniqueness to bring tremendous value to their relationships at home, work, church, and communities.
Contact me for a free consultation about how knowing your personality profile can help you bring strength and value to your spheres of influence.
As always, my goal is to help you make the most of your unique personality – your unfair advantage – for the benefit of those in your sphere of influence.
As always, I welcome your thoughts. Send me an email or call me at 720-593-9679
Until then, press on, men. Press on.